How to Find Your Pro-Dominatrix Mistress Match
To find your perfect Pro-Domme to satisfy all your Femdom fantasies, you first need to know yourself.
What I mean by knowing yourself, is understanding your wants, needs and expectations as a submissive.
A story I’ve heard a few times from different clients, goes something like this: a man has submissive fantasies and embarks on a process of discovery by experience. They go online and search through ads. They find a Mistress and go to see her. After the session they realise that they don’t feel satisfied.
They try again, with another Mistress, and again with another, and so on. It is not uncommon for this process to go on for 20 years before a submissive eventually finds a Mistress that provides them with a session that is perfect for them.
I’m not saying there is anything wrong with trying out different Mistresses. I think we all crave novel experiences. Something new can be exciting and we can learn from it. Indeed, the story above illustrates a process of trial and error that eventually yields the solution.
What I am saying, is that armed with a firm understanding of who you are as a seeker of services, you will be better equipped to carry out valuable research into finding a suitable Mistress.
There are as many types of Mistress as there are types of sub! Do not assume that any Mistress will match your requirements.
Here are my recommendations for finding your perfect
Dominatrix:
Know Yourself
Ask yourself some questions.
Are you a sub?
Or are you more of a kinkster?
What does submission mean to you?
How do you experience your kinks?
What is your ideal type of session?
How might sexual, BDSM and psychological aspects blend?
What are the core emotions that you would like to feel and how do you imagine those emotions being elicited from you?
What sort of introduction and/or aftercare do you need to feel that you have had a complete experience?
If you have never filled out a BDSM or kink questionnaire before then you might like to do so. Fetlife has a lot of good information that you can dive into as do many Mistresses on their websites.
Know The Mistress
Once you have established a rounded view of yourself as a seeker of services and understand what type of session you would like to experience, you can set out to research Mistresses and find a match.
Read their websites. If a Mistress says that she does not advertise services that you want, do not seek them! Find a Mistress who does.
As well as reading websites, browse social media to deepen your understanding of a Mistress that you wish to approach. I always appreciate it when a prospective client has taken time to absorb social media content that I have shared, because it suggests that they have invested time in a process of discovery. Investing time suggests a careful rather than a thoughtless approach to seeking services.
If a Mistress has a booking request form, its usually a good idea to fill that out rather than sending her an email. Make sure you know what the booking process is.
You could even arrange to have a preliminary telephone call with a Mistress, so that you can establish contact and create some familiarity before booking a session, if you are both happy to do so. I personally always have a telephone call with a prospective client before agreeing to have a session with them, because it helps me to understand if they are a suitable client for me.
Once you have booked a session, make sure you know how the Mistress would like you to prepare and how she expects you to conduct yourself before, during and after the session. These sorts of questions could be addressed during a preliminary telephone call.
Expect to have to pay for any time that a Mistress offers you, including telephone calls and email correspondence, unless otherwise agreed or it is contact that is strictly necessary to ensure a booking goes ahead.
Most if not all Mistresses do not want to receive casual correspondence or be asked questions to which the answers are obvious.
If you have done your research thoroughly, you should not need to ask obvious questions. A simple “thank you” post-session might be welcome but it is sensible to check before you leave your session if that is the case, or if they would like a testimonial for their website or social media.
May your search and discovery be fruitful!
In peace, love and kink,
Divine Theratrix.
About the Author
Divine Theratrix welcomes requests to talk about the process of seeking services and often acts as an introducer to other professionals. If you would like some help in finding a Mistress match, please get in touch with Divine Theratrix via the booking form on her website www.divinetheratrix.com
